As is par with adoption, we wait another week! Our paperwork is still not in the hands of the judge, but maybe by the end of the week, or the beginning of next. Honestly, waiting a week just to hear that you'll have to wait another week is excruciating! A very dear friend of mine (which on a side note....this adoption journey has brought an AMAZING friend my way and for that I will forever be thankful!!) sent me an e-mail with something that Jen Hatmaker said yesterday on Facebook. If you've never read anything by her....do it NOW! Jen wrote this in response to someone asking her about the waiting in adoption:
"Oh my, I can speak to this. First,
forget whatever timeline you were given at the beginning. Forget you ever heard
that. Put that in the trash can. Adoption will change, shift, slow down, hit
snags, be weird, be difficult, take longer than you think, take longer that you
can stand. This will happen. This is the normal thing. When someone gives you a
timeline, say, "Thank you for that cute little sentence. Flush." Potential
adopters, let me tell you this: Get your "YES" straight at the very beginning.
Decide on it. Roll around in it. Put it on the table and shellack it. Because
you cannot let every delay and snag derail your certainty about adoption. When
you say YES, you are saying YES to enter the suffering of the orphan, and that
suffering includes WAITING FOR YOU TO GET TO THEM. I promise you, their
suffering is worse than yours. We say YES to the tears, YES to the longing, YES
to the maddening process, YES to the money, YES to hope, YES to the screaming
frustration of it all, YES to going the distance through every unforeseen
discouragement and delay. Do not imagine that something outside of "your perfect
plan" means you heard God wrong. There is NO perfect adoption. EVERY adoption
has snags. We Americans invented the "show me a sign" or "this is a sign" or
"this must mean God is closing a door" or "God must not be in this because it is
hard," but all that is garbage. You know what's hard? Being an orphan. They need
us to be champions and heroes for them, fighting like hell to get them home. So
we will. We may cry and rage and scream and wail in the process, but get them
home we will."
Perfectly said! Get my "little man" home, I WILL!! I will definitely "cry, rage, scream and wail" (I've already done that today), but Troy and I will get him home!